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Are you ready to Ariadne thread unravels ?

In mythology, Ariadne was the daughter of King Minos of Crete and his wife Pasiphae. And her story begins with a chance encounter with a handsome stranger. As fate would have it, Ariadne fell in love with the dashing Greek hero Theseus. They met in Crete, where Theseus was sent to kill the deadly Minotaur. According to the myth, it was Ariadne who helped Theseus to escape the Labyrinth (which was the Minotaur's lair) by supplying the hero with thread used to navigate the tangled passages. In appreciation for her assistance, Theseus promised to make Ariadne his bride, and he brought her with him when he left Crete and sailed for his home in Athens.

But something happened on the way to Athens. During their journey, Theseus stopped to rest on the island of Naxos (also known as Dia). However, when he again set sail, the Greek adventurer did not have Ariadne on board - he simply left her alone on the island. Ariadne was devastated. Her love had abandoned her. As she was crying and lamenting her cruel fate, a miraculous event took place. The god Dionysos appeared, in all his divine glory, and rescued the forsaken heroine. In some versions of the myth, Dionysos then married Ariadne. So in Greek mythology, sometimes there really is a happy - and beautiful - ending.

Menu of the day: “FAST - LOVE”

From the cycle of writing "Ardeleanca & Babylon" I thought first to stop on a concept that for us transylvanians, is at least bizarre - "fast".

I hear increasingly often: fast food, fast learning, fast cars, and so on .... It seems that everything revolves around the word "fast" at breakneck speed, including relationships, between people whether just for friendship, for business or sexual (intimate).

Everything is on "fast mode”: dialogues with work-colleagues on the IM, keep in touch with your friends on Facebook and higher ends strong partnerships on various social networks, not to say that these social networks have become real marriage means .....


With mask or without mask, we’re making accounts on each network of this kind and, sometimes deliberately, sometimes unexpected, begin an innocent flirtation, an innocent game, playing can turn into a one-night stand, an short-term adventure, or if you are lucky, into a long term healthy relationship. And this is questionable: what is actually long-term relationship?

Until recently, I was convinced that a relationship is the one which is passing beyond the three years mark, but seeing what happens around me and including me, probably a relation of three years is equivalent to silver wedding from old times. Now, if you get to share your life with a partner for 3-6 months, you can call yourself a veteran.


Relationships like that have the same properties as junk-food: gives you the feeling of fullness, at least temporarily, and after the acute hunger you want more and more to "eat". So you become addicted to "FAST – LOVE”. So I thought to call generically, what happens now in the sphere of relations between two partners.

We all get at least once in life to eat "fast love" or as we recognize, whether we are hypocrites so let's not assume this. In this context, is becoming more difficult to have a long term relationship, especially when everything is counted in terms of "costs and benefits", in something like Wall Street. What feelings? What respect?


But which are the benefits of "fast love" consumption?


For him: no obligations the next day (no shopping together, no garbage, to meet her friends, parents, etc.) no worries about "performance" and "equipment" (PS: here I am waiting for remarks from my "elephant" friends - ie men: P)

For her: if he doesn’t performs as you like, anytime you can play Magic, hokey-pokey and you are gone, you can leave home complexes and prejudices, you don’t have to take them with you, because in the morning you're not forced to be face-to-face with him.

So what if you have cellulite, doesn’t matter if you don’t have perfect breasts, well shaped and firm buttocks, or flat abdomen, and you are excused from picking up clothes the next morning, that are thrown all over the house.


These benefits are enough to make us consume "fast love"? Or there are other reasons that push us to choose the shortest and fastest way?

A friend, answering the challenge of sharing his opinion about one-night stand, responded promptly: challenge or curiosity. Let’s stop a little on those two concepts.

Challenge for whom , for him or her?

If it is for Him, then what he wants to showcase? That he is the "big male"? That he is irresistible? As can be fit even if it is taken by surprise?

For Her - the challenge is to see if she is able to go all the way and not to stop playing as a teen, maybe "the mysterious prince" can give her "the perfect orgasm", the challenge is removing the fear to discover that she lived in ignorance for so many years...


From here, I can draw a conclusion, more than eloquent: "fast love" is nothing more than meeting the needs that are profitable for both parties, whether male or female, without any further implications. What challenge? What curiosity? You can satisfy your curiosity in a long relationship, experimenting new techniques, positions, or giving free rein to fantasies, as long as both partners make a little effort, an they put their imaginations to work, and get over prejudices and inhibitions.


What do you do when there is a risk that “one-night stand” will turn into “Every-Night Stand”?

Your boyfriend just doesn’t satisfy you anymore, the relationship has become just so dull and boring that you want a little entertainment and a little more diversity, or simply there is no relationship, all these reasons are rather solid, to make a one-night into several nights. So how far are you willing to go?

You’ll make compromises to “play the doubles”? Or accept to be "the second fiddle"? Most of the "fast love"-fans are involved in a relationship, in the long or short, or if not, they will not like to get involved in one, but they will turn into true hunters of opportunities.


And I'm wondering: "fast love" or we are too "fast for love"? Yes, definitely we live in the century of speed, but really to be that fast that you do not have time, availability and interest to invest emotionally in a partner .....



Love "much" than "fast" :)



Thanks to my good friend "Fumatorul" for supervision in translation :)
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